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Playboy Mansion – Kandy Masquerade – Today is Your Last Chance!

Hey Guys,

So, if you live in California you probably saw a demonstrably excited email or two about the advanced training event that Future and I are running this Saturday. The Playboy Mansion: Kandy Masquerade Party w/ Future and Starlight is fast approaching, so if you’re interested I suggest you get in touch with Jeremy Lubin TODAY and lock it in: [email protected] or (800)680-0821 ext.110

Here is the original post I put up for the event. Seriously. It doesn’t really get much better than this on planet Earth :)

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Hey Guys,

I’ve been thinking a lot about New Years resolutions…hell, new decade resolutions and am filling up a list with everything I want to do in the next 10 years. Of all the things that you’ve done in the last ten years, is there something missing? One secret wish that hasn’t yet been fulfilled?

Well, if the answer is yes, and if that one special event involves naked playmates covered in edible body paint and candy corns, I have good news for you!

Let’s kick off the 2010′s in style at: Kandy Masquerade: An Evening of Mystique and Seduction at the Playboy Mansion, February 27, 2010!

This is one of the most exclusive events at the Playboy Mansion and under normal circumstances you need an invite from a member of the Karma Foundation which can cost up to $2,000 based on demand.

Well guess what, I’ve got some some tickets and they’re burning a hole in my pocket!

Have you seen the reviews from the last Advanced Bootcamp at the Playboy Mansion, lead by none other than Savoy himself? Out of 12 guys on the program a total of 7 went home with playmate-quality girls!! I mean that is just unheard of (and doesn’t include the Instructors ;-)

Here is an excerpt from one of the attendees:

Duuuuudes!

It is 5:21 am PST, I’m tired as shit, the scotch is still seeping from my pours, and I’m happier and prouder than I can ever remember being! Which is why I have to just tell someone what just happened despite my current state. The final text of the weekend just arrived “I had a flocking good time J” she writes… time stamp: 5:23 am PST. A straight up 10, one of the Playboy Playmate recruits from the mansion Sat night, just left my hotel room. She’s f***ing gorgeous and bones like a porn star!

…Finally, and most importantly! STARLIGHT IS A GOD! After the Sunday seminar he gave me a personal debriefing on my whole night as I had some particular questions. His advise led me to text the girl I lost on the bus home and sure enough she wanted to hang out. Starlight gave me some great text game coaching (which I SUCK at) and as a result, my 10 showed up at my hotel and I closed the hottest girl I’ve ever been with! All-in-all, the best weekend of my life!

-H.F. (Full review here)

No doubt that was one hell of a night!

Now imagine that kind of a set up at THE event of the year at the Playboy Mansion. Imagine yourself in the midst of 300+ drop-dead gorgeous models in body paint, open bar and food all night, cameos by movie stars and even Hugh Hefner himself surrounded by 5 blondes like a champ.

Now hold that thought…add in some of the top Dating Coaches in the world working with you, strategizing, winging you in set, generally making it our mission to give you an experience like in the testimonial above. I want nothing short of the best night of 2010!

That is the opportunity I have to offer you…call it an early Christmas present

If you want in, please notice that this is an exclusive group-training event and not a traditional Love Systems bootcamp.

We’ll get together earlier in the day and work together for 4-5 hours to fine-tune your game, work on personalizing stories and material for you and provide some fashion and style consulting to stand-out in the crowd at the Playboy Mansion. Like when I arrived for the Kandy Halloween party as the original International Man of Mystery:

“ The Playboy Mansion was UNBELIEVABLE. I have NEVER seen so many 9′s and 10′s in one place before. There were sets all over the place! It was like sarging heaven. Surprisingly enough, almost all of the girls were very approachable and not even a bit bitchy or cold like I would have expected. With all of these amazing instructors at my disposal I wanted to make sure I learned as much as possible from them. I achieved my goal and I’m glad I did this, as I was rewarded with amazing feedback and got to see some of the best instructors in the business at work in the field.”

-S.F. (Full review here)

If you want to come have an experience that will make your future grandchildren jealous, call or write Jeremy to sign-up:

[email protected] or 1-800-680-0821 ext.110

I only have room for a handful of guys and once the tickets are gone…they are gone for good. So to be fair, it’s first-come-first-serve.

Game On!!

Kandy Masquerade: An Evening of Mystique and Seduction at The Playboy Mansion is another post by Dating Coach Starlight

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Girl Game – Girls Get a Strategy to Meet Mr. Right in San Francisco

Girl Game

So, last weekend Soul, Bonsai and I ran a sold-out Day Game workshop in San Francisco.SF Weekly sent out a camera crew and female reporter to cover the event, which was fun in the sense that sometimes girls would see the photographer’s lens poking out of the bushes while we were in set in Union Square!

Anyhow, after the event ended, over a few drinks, the reporter threw out the idea: “Hey, how about we put up a Twitter alert for 6 girls looking to improve their love lives with a few professional dating coaches?”

Hmm…coach girls on how to approach & open guys? Sounds fun. A whole new storyline for SF Weekly to play with. And the chance to put a lot of brainstorming with Soul and Whim to work.

So we showed up in the Marina at 8p to meet the 6 lucky ladies.

There was a tall blond personal trainer looking to meet potential mates outside of her profession, a twentysomething Asian advertising exec that just loathed being approached by guys…but yearned to meet new people and build connections in neutral territory before even broaching intimacy.

We sat outside under the clear night sky and heat lamps, getting a feel for all of there relationship lives of late. A lot of interesting stuff came up

Turns out there are a lot of girls out there who are frustrated that guys don’t “do what they’re supposed to” when they give invitations to approach like smiling, looking at you or doing a double take.

So we decided to flip the script and have them open guys, riffing on the stereotype:

“Hey, so I know I’m supposed to stand over and smile at you until you come talk to me, but…I thought you looked cool, so I wanted to come say hi”

Guys jaws dropped, a couple thought they were kidding, but only ONE guy-set blew out our chics all night :)

Here is a mindmap that Soul & Whim created to map out Girl Game

Girl Game

Soul and I also got a chance to confirm some of the material that we teach:

  • Female attraction works like a volume knob; it’s not just on/off like a light switch, and needs to be ramped up through a variety of emotions and intrigue.
  • Girls do not get all dolled up just to go dance with their girl friends. They want to meet cool, interesting guys, but generally have come to despise being approached by guys who “just don’t get it” or are “sleezy and weird,” or perhaps worse of all: “guys that are just plain boring”
  • That they are irresistibly (and sometimes unexplainably) attracted to guys that “just don’t give a fuck” or can be jerks sometimes…that aren’t afraid of what other people think. (I think this is because it’s a good counter-balance to female hyper-awareness of relative social value, and there place in the hierarchy)

An important takeaway of mine is summed up like this:

All in all, a fun night out. When the article comes out I’ ll post it here. Thanks SF Weekly

Girl Game – Girls Get a Strategy to Meet Mr. Right in San Francisco is a post by Dating Coach Starlight. You can also check out:

College Game 101: The Hub and Spoke Model

Kandy Masquerade: An Evening of Mystique and Seduction at the Playboy Mansion

Starlight

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Braddock & Mr. M’s Phone & Text Game Book – Arrived At Last!

Hey Guys,

Back in mid-2008 I arrived in London wide-eyed and ready to learn from the masters on Project Rockstar. One of the first things Mr. M asked me to do was help him out transcribing some text strings off his phone for the Phone and Text Game Book, which I was all excited to do.

I remember holding his phone and being all like “This is where the magic happens” haha. It’s funny to think back on those times, but the point is that Braddock and Mr. M have been working on this book for well over a year…and it’s only gotten better and more comprehensive with each iteration.

Phone & Text Game Book

You may notice that we at Love Systems don’t release a ton of products in any given year. Sure, there are Interview Series and blog posts and such, but actual products that are meant to stand the test of time. Well, there is Magic Bullets, Routines Manual I & II….and now the Phone & Text Game Book.

The point is, when Love Systems finally gives the green-light to release a product, you can be damn sure that it has been scrutinized, researched extensively, tested in-field continuously and refined to the point where it has minimal filler and maximum impact.

Plus, if you pick up a copy of the Text Game Book today you get like 4-5 additional eBooks and audio interviews as a bonus, completely free.

Since all Love Systems products have a 100% money-back guarantee and after this emphatic endorsement that I’m giving the book (which if you follow my blog you know is not an everyday thing, I can’t recommend strongly enough that you check out the be-all, end-all resource for interacting with girls via phone and text

Check it out: Phone & Text Game Book

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Starlight’s Steaming Soft Qualification Soufflé

 

Statement . . . Question: Pass The Baton

Run With It – Hold it –Drop the Baton

Qualification is about standards. Your standards. Once she has some basic feelings of attraction towards you, it’s time to fill in the non-physical reasons as to why you like her. When a girl says:

o   “Why do you like me?”

o   “Why are you talking to me?” (not confrontational or testing)

o   “What do you see in me?”

o   “Do you really like me?”

She is likely asking this because she feels like you only like her for her body. Or just want to sleep with her without getting to know her. Or that you won’t care about her anymore if she keeps progressing physically with you.

So I came up with a recipe for Soft Qualification to throw in your sets early to quickly screen for commonalities that you personally care about. With one or two of these establish there is always a plausible reason to be interested in her that you can weave back into the conversation. You want her to feel a connection with you based on shared interests, then remember the reason/feeling if she’s asking “Why do you like me?” later on

Recipe for Soft Qualification

Ingredients:

Ø 3-4 ripe Umbrella Topicsthat are interests or passions of yours.

Ø 2 seasonal varieties of each Topic that address either who, what, where, when, why or how .

Ø A handful of people and places that illustrate the questions above

Ø And a touch of flair to bring the stories to life

Scour the farmer’s market of your mind for 3-4 ripe Umbrella Topics. These are the things you like, topics your study, and activities you enjoy.They are ripe because theyare relevant. These are not areas of interest circa 1996, but the things you’re currently involved in or exploring undertaking. Spend 5-10 minutes thinking about what these 3-4 areas are.

Slice each topic in two. Chose two aspects of the topic that address the 5 W questions (who, what, where, when, why).

Now add in some of the people you do these activities with, the places that you do them.

Finally add in some spice to give the stories a unique flavor. These are emotional highs and lows that make the story a visceral experience in it’s retelling.

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Starlight Presents: College Game 101 – The Hub & Spoke Model

When it comes to having an active sex life at college there are a few basic principles that will put you ahead of the pack straight away. The typical college hookup is generally characterized as showing up at a frat house with a twelve pack and a beer bong. Yes. That will get you laid.But let’s take a look at a more strategic approach that will also improve your social life and not necessarily require a hangover every time you want to hook up.

The Hub and Spoke Model

The Hub: Your first goal is to become the social connector for your group of friends. This means proactively organizing events and making introductions without having any readily apparent underlying agenda. Examples are:

  • Dinner party at your place
  • Pre-game at your apartment (before ball games or going out)
  • Study group location
  • Pajama party for your friends (or fraternity)
  • Theme parties, such as engaging the floor of your apartment or dorm to have everyone open their rooms for a couple hours and each room prepares something to share with the others (anything from Jager-bombs to banana bread).
  • Color-coded jello shot Twister party

Any of the above done once or twice a month will make your place the social “hub” and you’ll know you’re on the right path if it’s your name on the tip of people’s tongue come Monday morning:

“What did you do last weekend”

“Oh, we pre-gamed at your name‘s place and then went out downtown”

Ok, so now you are a social connector and encourage people to bring their friends when you have events or meet-ups at your pad. Your relative social value is high when you’re the host, and you’re meeting people from a position of strength when they’re invited (or brought to) your house. There is no real need to “run game” in your own house if everyone is talkative and having a good time.

The Right Way to Throw a Theme Party

The Spokes: Given all the above, you want to leverage your efforts to have a continual stream of people (read: girls) coming through your place. Say you just had a dinner party where everyone brings an ingredient and you make up a recipe on the spot. Fun. Now you’re well fed, it’s time to go out together.

When you are out, be it a college bar or frat party, you want to capitalize on the emotional momentum created by spending time together at your place before hand. This is the time to start doing cold approach.Some of the best nights I’ve had revolved around having 1-2 hours of social time with friends and new acquaintances at my place then going out together and being a cold approach ninja. This works because:

  • You are already in a social, talkative headspace
  • The conversation and jokes that started at your place carry over to a public venue and create awesome social proof.
  • Those conversation threads and jokes can easily be converted to opinion openers to rope others into your conversation.
  • You can cold approach with ease, knowing that even in a worst-case scenario blowout your group of friends that thinks highly of you is right there.

When you use the Hub and Spoke model, it’s not uncommon for girls to ask to meet you. Think of the impression it gives off when your group arrives at a venue laughing and joking with each other. Then when you approach others and introduce them around all your friends say something like “Yeah we just had an awesome dinner party at his house, I never knew you could make a one-pot special out of potatoes, cranberries, and candied walnuts.”

Managing End-of-Night Logistics:

The Hub is your place, and the events that you initiate that take place there. The Spokes are the new people you meet through these events, both the ones that come to your place with friends, and the ones that you cold approach out at a venue and bring to your Hub.

You’re creating a situation wherein you are the social connector and anyone that comes in contact with your group will effortlessly get a very positive impression of you. This hits one of the most powerful attractions switches “Pre-Selection” like a jackhammer.

At this point you just need to manage logistics and have a reason to head back to your place with one or two people after you’ve gone out. This can easily flow from the events earlier in the evening:

“You gotta come check out the aftermath of color-coded jello shot Twister, there are red, green, blue and yellow hand and foot prints all over the living room!”

“Getting hungry? There are some killer leftovers from our surprise one-pot special dinner party…you wouldn’t believe what happens when celery, brown sugar and peanut butter fight to the death in a simmering wok”

Concluding Motivational Speech:

College is a unique time in life when trying new things is the norm. Being in a new city, sometimes out from under the parental umbrella for the first time, is the perfect pretext for meeting new people and escalating towards intimacy rather quickly.

Be the person who is social, fun and most of all who connects people with one another. Do not waste the golden opportunity of college with your nose in a textbook on a Friday night. There is plenty of time for that Sunday through Thursday. Make it happen. Game on!

~ Starlight ~

College Game 101 – The Hub & Spoke Model is another post by Dating Coach Starlight

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Not To Be Missed: Braddock on Inner Game

Hey Guys,

Happy New Year first and foremost! From catching up with friends all around the world it sounds like 1.) Everyone partied exceptionally hard for the turn of the decade, and 2.) Unanimous opinion is that 2010 will be an Awesome year! I’m all about that, so let’s make it happen.

Take a moment to check out Braddock’s post on his truly ground-breaking Inner Game Seminar here: http://www.braddocksblog.com/2010/01/love-systems-inner-game-seminar/

I was fortunate enough to sit-in on this seminar early last year and I can’t say enough about it. I took almost 40 pages of notes spanning everything from how neuropsychology affects our worldviews to “going Supernova” when all the pistons in life start firing in unison…it changed the way I looked at almost all the relationships in my life and uncovered some issues that I really needed to look at and address in myself.

Inner Game isn’t a typical seminar about “Game” per se, but I can’t overstate how much our identity-level beliefs and outlooks on the world affect our ability to meet/attract quality girls.

Let me know what you think. Braddock (and Mr M) are onto something here that I think is more important, and definitely more relevant, than most graduate level applied psychology courses.

Peace!

Starlight

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Kandy Masquerade: An Evening of Mystique and Seduction at The Playboy Mansion

Hey Guys,

Christmas is days away, New Years Eve is almost upon us, and the end of the decade is right around the corner.

Of all the things that you’ve done in the last ten years, is there something missing? One secret wish that hasn’t yet been fulfilled?

Well, if the answer is yes, and if that one special event involves naked playmates covered in edible body paint and candy corns, I have good news for you!

Let’s kick off the 2010′s in style at: Kandy Masquerade: An Evening of Mystique and Seduction at the Playboy Mansion, February 27, 2010!

This is one of the most exclusive events at the Playboy Mansion and under normal circumstances you need an invite from a member of the Karma Foundation which can cost up to $2,000 based on demand.

Well guess what, I’ve got some some tickets and they’re burning a hole in my pocket!

Have you seen the reviews from the last Advanced Bootcamp at the Playboy Mansion, lead by none other than Savoy himself? Out of 12 guys on the program a total of 7 went home with playmate-quality girls!! I mean that is just unheard of (and doesn’t include the Instructors ;-)

Here is an excerpt from one of the attendees:

Duuuuudes!
It is 5:21 am PST, I’m tired as shit, the scotch is still seeping from my pours, and I’m happier and prouder than I can ever remember being! Which is why I have to just tell someone what just happened despite my current state. The final text of the weekend just arrived “I had a flocking good time J” she writes… time stamp: 5:23 am PST. A straight up 10, one of the Playboy Playmate recruits from the mansion Sat night, just left my hotel room. She’s f***ing gorgeous and bones like a porn star!

 

…Finally, and most importantly! STARLIGHT IS A GOD! After the Sunday seminar he gave me a personal debriefing on my whole night as I had some particular questions. His advise led me to text the girl I lost on the bus home and sure enough she wanted to hang out. Starlight gave me some great text game coaching (which I SUCK at) and as a result, my 10 showed up at my hotel and I closed the hottest girl I’ve ever been with! All-in-all, the best weekend of my life!
-H.F. (Full review here)

No doubt that was one hell of a night!

Now imagine that kind of a set up at THE event of the year at the Playboy Mansion. Imagine yourself in the midst of 300+ drop-dead gorgeous models in body paint, open bar and food all night, cameos by movie stars and even Hugh Hefner himself surrounded by 5 blondes like a champ.

Now hold that thought…add in some of the top Dating Coaches in the world working with you, strategizing, winging you in set, generally making it our mission to give you an experience like in the testimonial above. I want nothing short of the best night of 2010!

That is the opportunity I have to offer you…call it an early Christmas present

If you want in, please notice that this is an exclusive group-training event and not a traditional Love Systems bootcamp.

We’ll get together earlier in the day and work together for 4-5 hours to fine-tune your game, work on personalizing stories and material for you and provide some fashion and style consulting to stand-out in the crowd at the Playboy Mansion. Like when I arrived for the Kandy Halloween party as the original International Man of Mystery:


“The Playboy Mansion was UNBELIEVABLE. I have NEVER seen so many 9′s and 10′s in one place before. There were sets all over the place! It was like sarging heaven. Surprisingly enough, almost all of the girls were very approachable and not even a bit bitchy or cold like I would have expected. With all of these amazing instructors at my disposal I wanted to make sure I learned as much as possible from them. I achieved my goal and I’m glad I did this, as I was rewarded with amazing feedback and got to see some of the best instructors in the business at work in the field.”

-S.F. (Full review here)

If you want to come have an experience that will make your future grandchildren jealous, call or write Jeremy to sign-up:

[email protected] or 1-800-680-0821 ext.110

I only have room for a handful of guys and once the tickets are gone…they are gone for good. So to be fair, it’s first-come-first-serve.

Game On!!

Kandy Masquerade: An Evening of Mystique and Seduction at The Playboy Mansion is another post by Dating Coach Starlight

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Free Phone & Text Game Conference Call – Happy Holidays

Ah, the holidays are upon us. Girls get bundled up like snow bunnies, families come together to gorge themselves on holiday fare, and Love Systems gives back to the community with something worth getting in on.

That is to say, whilst you’re getting ready to carve turkey, Savoy and Braddock are carving out some time from their crazy schedules to put on a FREE 90-Minute Phone & Text Game Conference Call!

Considering that Braddock’s soon-to-be released Text Game book is teetering somewhere around 900-pages last I checked, there is probably no one better in the world to learn from on this subject. On that note, I’ ll probably dial in and pick up a few tips myself!

Here’s the scoop

1) Focused on PHONE AND TEXT GAME

2) Lengthened to an hour and a half

3) Leased 400 lines (usually we only do 200)

4) Requested questions in advance so an intern can choose the best ones

Details:

Thursday, December 10th

6pm PST (9pm EST, 2am the next day GMT)

Reserve your spot here:

www.lovesystems.com/call

Note: This is completely free, no credit cards or anything else involved. Unlike other“conference calls” nothing will be sold or pitched on the call, etc. This is just for funfor the holidays.

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Starlight & Vercetti Help Destroy Last Minute Resistance

Somewhere in between the craziness that was the Superconference in Vegas, Vercetti and I sat down with Jeremy to do an Interview Series on Last Minute Resistance (LMR). At first, Vercetti and I looked at each other and said ‘well how much is there to say about LMR?” But once the tape started rolling we kept going and going. You can hear the first ten minutes here:

Let me know what you think!

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Let’s Try Something Fun: Man v Journalist v2.0

I got a kick out of Savoy’s: Man vs Journalist blog post about the Las Vegas Weekly article. So I decided, let’s try an experiment. Here is the transcript of a recent interview I did with a freelance journalist. Apparently this may end up in Penthouse or GQ, so when the article comes out, I’ll post it here and compare what was written with what I said. Game on:

- How did you get involved with the community? When did you first hear of it?

A couple of years ago I was on my way to a conference in Mexico City and I saw a copy of The Game at the airport. Picked it up and read most of the book on the flight down. I had to know if it was real, so I did the only sensible thing and started running routines straight out of The Game…in Spanish! Lo, and behold I met a cute high-class Mexican girl; we ditched the conference to go explore historic Mexico City. She had never kissed anyone before. But by the end of the day we were rolling around on the grass watching sunset over the city making out. I was in a state of semi-shock and realized my new mission in life was to “get Game” so to speak.

- Describe your inter actions with women before you got involved with this?

In high school I was friends with the jocks and cool guys. We’d go out to parties and I never quite knew how to act in those environments, while my buddies were hooking up with chics left and right. By virtue of playing a Jimi Hendrix medley at the talent show, I ended up dating one of the hottest chics in school. Life was good. But not always to be.

When I moved out, to study guitar at Los Angeles Music Academy I realized the world was a much bigger, and more fractionated place than high school.  I don’t think I so much as went on one date for almost a year. Then over time, through different social circles I would end up in relationships but I didn’t feel like I had any control over bringing girls into my life, and that their attraction to me was arbitrary, not a direct result of something of my doing. So, in short, my interactions with women were spontaneous and sometimes few and far between.

- When did you make the leap from student to instructor (if that is what happened)

After returning from Mexico City, I read all the material I could find and ended up on Love System’s The Attraction Forums. I saw that there were thousands of guys all over the world looking for answers to the most pressing questions about meeting and attracting the kind of girls that you really want. I began documenting my journey and posting questions about problems or “sticking points” that came up.

Then one day I saw a post for Project Rockstar, a two-month intensive Game training program put on by Mr. M, one of the top Love System’s Instructors. The proposition was: drop everything, move to London for 2 months, and learn Game, social dynamics, entrepreneurship, and more from the best minds in each field. Irresistible! So I applied, and made plans to travel all summer in Europe with my best friend on the off chance that I’d get accepted…which I did, and Project Rockstar marked the beginning of a really transformational period in my life. Going out 6 nights a week,  doing 5 days a week in the gym, chronicling the whole journey online with thousands of people scrutinizing our every move. The experience brought into question every long-held belief I had as to what is possible, feasible, realistic, desirable and necessary. Resultantly I have never felt so comfortable in my own skin and confident in my ability to rise to all challenges that life throws my way.

Through the course of Project Rockstar the transition from student to Instructor began, without us even knowing beforehand, no less! After three weeks of intensive lecturing, field work, game theory non-stop and approaching nearly every girl in London, we were shocked to learn that we’d be assisting on a Love System’s bootcamp as approach coaches. I’ll tell you, going out with friends and coaches to meet girls is totally different than running a workshop of ten people out at a three story club, and trying to give valuable feedback after each interaction, while keeping mental tabs on how everyone is doing…that’s when everything I had been learning  up to that point solidified, and became actionable knowledge that I could act on without conscious thought,…like a computer processor running in the background and spitting out the right thing to say in each situation to get the desired reaction.

We called it “seeing the Matrix” and really, that’s what it feels like to be in tune with the unspoken subtexts underpinning interactions. It was very rewarding to help guys achieve things they never thought possible, like kissing a girl 15 minutes after meeting her, or getting a date with a girl they always thought “out of their league.” So I kept volunteering to help out on workshops and bootcamps. It was sort of a seamless transition to being an Instructor after Project Rockstar ended and I really have to thank Mr. M for being an inspiration and mentor throughout that time.

- How important is the in-field stuff as compared to the theoretical stuff?

I think they’re equally important, but (and that is a big But), if you only study the theory and never go out and put it into practice, you go nowhere. For guys like me who didn’t know why things were, or were not, working out with girls. The Emotional Progression Model gives a great context to understand what went wrong in an interaction…like if you talk to a girl for two hours and make this great connection, but then she goes off for a 20 minutes and you see her making out with another guy. That could be really confusing and frustrating, but in hindsight you could realize that you were building a lot of comfort with the girl, but she was not attracted sexually. Seeing a clear map of how an ideal interaction should progress from introduction to the sexuality lets you know where you’re at along the way and how to identify and correct missteps.

So, with that in hand, the most important thing is going out and having tons of interactions. Meeting tens of people each night of going out. And going out at least 2-3 times a week, otherwise it’s hard to gauge your progress if there is a gap of a week or more from the last night out. A lot of guys see dramatic improvement by doing a 30-day challenge; going out almost every day for a month and posting on the Attraction Forums. As Instructors, when we notice guys doing that, we’ll give extra advice and encouragement cause it shows someone is serious about self-improvement and kicking ass at life.

- What’s the biggest improvement you have seen in a student?

At the Super Conference this year Jeremy Soul led a Day Game seminar, and for the infield groups one of the guys I was working with was a massage therapist and was so nervous that he was having trouble forming sentences. Like, he was sweating at the thought of approaching a girl on the street. So we warmed up really slow; start with asking a group of passersby for the time, then to take a picture of all of us.

Then I gave him an exercise that always seems to help approach anxiety: Go give one genuine compliment to three different girls. You don’t have to do anything other than say “Excuse me, I just noticed you from over there and had to say that dress looks lovely on you. Cool, have a good day” and walk away. Just the mindset that you are not expected to say anything other than one line, as opposed to carry on a 20-minute conversation, eases the nerves.

So, now this client is calmed down a bit and not on the verge of hyperventilating. So I send him in to approach a couple girls with one of the other students. He’s just sort of standing still while the other guy is carrying the interaction. So I go in and discover that they were dancing all night at some music festival, I tell them the student is a massage therapist and could probably help. Finally he opens up and gives one of the girls a mini-neck massage. He got her number.

Then later in the day we met some promoters that put our group of like 15 people on the list at XS for service industry night. I helped the client send a couple text messages and invite her out to XS. He was getting progressively calmer and couldn’t believe that he was taking a girl he just met to one of the hottest clubs in Vegas and would be able to introduce her around to 15 other people that would say he’s super cool and give him respect. I think the experience was a turning point in his life. He ended up having a great night with the girl and was glowing when I saw him the next day.

Really though, there are so many stories like that. Some are way over the top, like an overweight student at the Super Conference going to a sex shop with two girls he met at the club, then having a threesome. The guy had only been on a couple dates before in his life, so that was a pretty big leap too.

- Some media portray the students of these type of courses are ‘nerds’ etc – is that fair, can you give me an idea of the type of people you have trained?

It’s funny, just last weekend in NYC we had a couple 18 year old guys, and one guy over 50. The older guy wanted to meet middle age ladies in Borders bookstore while we took the younger guys to Grand Central Station to meet some NYU girls. I wouldn’t say that too many students fit the profile of “nerd” but I guess that depends on how you define it. A lot of guys have had one or two bad relationships or experiences with girls that undercut their confidence or willingness to dive into the dating pool headfirst. So, we take them outside their comfort zone, and provide some new positive reference experiences to counterbalance the bad.

We get some pretty funny, over the top guys too, which keeps things interesting. Like one guy was asking every instructor how to get some alone time with a girl if she’s at a club with her older brother and two married couples, and the brother just told him not to even try hitting on his sister. He was a very driven, well-to-do investment banker and didn’t like taking no for an answer.  We seem to get a lot of entrepreneurs and guys from financial industries. But it’s hard to put broad label on the types of guys that attend.

- What is your specialty and how did you get good at it?

At this point, I’d have to say Day Game. I went through a period of going out to high-end clubs every weekend and it was fun to go after super hot party girls. But I found myself wanting a little more depth in the girls I met, so I began to really focus on meeting girls in the daytime in different environments; department stores, public transport, on city streets.

When I was in London for Project Rockstar last summer Jeremy Soul, the Chief Day Game Instructor for Love Systems trained me extensively. Then we close friends and had some crazy adventures in Stockholm together…like being out on the streets approaching girls for 5-6 hours a day to the point where we were running into people we met every couple of minutes, and walking arm-in-arm with some gorgeous Swedish girl each evening. It was one of the funnest times of my life.

And so, I have worked with Jeremy Soul on Day Game seminars all over the world for the past year or so. How did I get good at it? Practice makes perfect. In London alone I literally approached over 1,500 girls/groups of people. Some interactions lasted only a couple seconds, some hours, and some till the next day. Really, one you have some general strategies and theory, going out consistently and with like-minded friends is the way anyone/everyone gets good.

- If you had to give one piece of advice to the average guy who wants to get better at women, what would it be?

You must take action. Start today in the way that feels most comfortable or manageable and quickly work up from there. So, if you’re generally just beginning this journey, give 1 really genuine compliment to a girl each day this week. Something specific to the girl that you noticed, and not just “you look gorgeous.” Instead, try something that really caught your eye and that she probably put some thought into, like “Listen, I couldn’t help but notice that you walk as though your on a runway at a fashion show. The way you carry yourself shows me that your have confidence and self respect” – When delivered right, that right there may cause her to carry the conversation for a few minutes when you were just experimenting with giving your 1 genuine compliment for the day.

Here is another one…a little bit more advanced, but great exercise nonetheless:

Get out a pen and paper. Write down three things that you look for in a girl that are non-physical.  Is she adventurous? Loves heights? Flies a plane? Always wanted to swim with the dolphins in Hawaii?

Once you’ve got them, work on screening for these qualities in your interactions. So, if you love heights and want to find a girl that would appreciate a date to the top of Sears Tower as much as you, then you can posit the topic to gauge for a reaction:

“…You know what I always wanted to do? Climb up Half Dome and sit right on the edge of that rock that sticks out over the edge and take a picture looking down. Doesn’t that sound awesome?”

Not everyone would think that’s such a good idea. But if she says that sounds like the coolest thing ever, then you may one step closer to finding a girl you really connect with beyond just physical attraction.

- For many, their first introduction to the seduction community was Neil Strauss’ book, The Game; how far has the scene come on from there?

It’s funny, even though The Game was my first introduction to this community, I don’t feel like what I teach now has almost any correlation to the stuff in the book. It’s like, there used to be 2-3 guys on every bootcamp that had wristcuffs, some rings on, a necklace or some kind of tacky jacket or hat on cause they read that peacocking was cool. Well, those things can be cool, as long it’s congruent with your own identity and self-image. And I think now what we teach relates to change on a deeper level than just getting a new wardrobe and a designer haircut. Seminars like Braddock and Mr. M’s: Inner Game and Social Circle Mastery are on par with a graduate-level applied psychology course.

So I’d say the progress that the community has made can be measured from just instructing on skills to help guys get laid more; to providing a framework and tools to create the lifestyle and confidence that our clients have always dreamed of. It’s about getting every piston in your life firing simultaneously; health, wealth, relationships, academic pursuits etc. and becoming the center of gravity in your own life.

We say that when there is continual focus and improvement in each area of your life, then you’re going “Supernova” and that’s when the Law of Attraction really begins paying dividends. Girls that you’re attracted to are drawn into your life by virtue of having built an attractive lifestyle, opportunities are presented to you because people value your opinion and you feel that you genuinely deserve to enjoy life to the fullest. It’s great to hear back from clients 3 months, 6 months on or later and hear about the great stuff going on in their lives which they attribute to the information and inspiration we gave them. That’s definitely the most rewarding part of being a Love System’s Instructor!

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